Sunday, December 23, 2007

Blue Laws and Our Money

I found this short article from the World Congress of Families so interesting:


Family Research Abstract of the Week: Blue Laws Not So Blue













State and local ordinances restricting commerce on Sunday were fairly widespread in America from colonial times until 1961. That's when the Supreme Court opened the door to constitutional challenges to "blue laws," after which most were repealed on merchants' claims that they imposed hardships on the public. But now comes a study by two noted economists that suggests rather than spreading a case of the blues, the secular fencing off of one day a week for worship, rest, and family yielded important social dividends.


Using datasets from the General Social Survey (GSS), Jonathan Gruber of MIT and Daniel M. Hungerman of Notre Dame found that the repeal of Sunday-closing laws in 16 representative states between 1955 and 1991 triggered "a very strong reduction" in the frequency of church attendance in those same states between 1973 and 1998. Then looking at data from the Consumer Expenditure Survey and state-by-state spending by congregations of four representative Protestant denominations between 1950 and 2000, they found that repeal triggered significant declines in giving to religious organizations, as well as in church budgets. Finally, looking at the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth (NLSY), the economists found that repeal yielded increases in alcohol and illegal drug use among a cohort of young people, ages 14 to 21.


Quantifying the strong and "striking" correlation between blue laws and church attendance, their analysis found that the change in state laws reduced attendance by about five percent of the median, what they term a sizeable effect roughly one-third as large as the well-established higher rate of attendance among women relative to men. They also observed a downshift in attendance-frequency categories, including a 15 percent decline in GSS respondents claiming to attend church weekly and increases in those claiming rare attendance. In addition, the sizeable decline in giving amounted to a 13 percent reduction in giving by individuals, as well as a statistically significant 6.3 percent drop in per-member spending by congregations associated with the United Methodist Church, the Southern Baptist Convention, the Missouri Synod Lutheran Church, and the United Church of Christ.


Their analysis of the NLSY data, which tracks church attendance since 1979 and substance use between 1982 and 1994, found large and significant negative effects of repeal among church-attending youth that extend beyond a cut back in attendance. They found that church-going teens (relative to their peers that do not attend church) were 5.5 percent more likely to drink, which lowered the gap in heavy drinking between the religious and nonreligious youth by 50 percent. In addition, they were 11 percent more likely to use marijuana and 3.6 percent more likely to use cocaine, effects which closed the gaps completely in these behaviors between churched and unchurched youth.


Specification tests, which included controls for a state's socioeconomic characteristics and changes in other types of social participation, confirmed that these findings were not driven by declines in religiosity that may have been occurring before repeal or by declines in membership and giving to nonreligious organizations after repeal. So while opening the mall on Sunday might deliver short-term gains to the corporate bottom line, these findings offer hard evidence that the move to turn the Lord's Day into just another hectic day of buying and selling was not possible without a critical loss of social capital.



(Source: Jonathan Gruber and Daniel M. Hungerman, "The Church vs. the Mall: What Happens When Religion Faces Increased Secular Competition?" National Bureau of Economic Research, Working Paper 12410, July 2006.)



Saturday, December 22, 2007

What We Really Need

A lot of people have mentioned to me that it's a great time of year to have a baby.  I agree.  Well, I think that any time of year is a good time to have a baby.  ;-)  But one thing I've been stressed over is me being out of commission.  Things just don't get done that would normally get done because everyone else is pulling my slack - God bless 'em.  So I've been worried that this Christmas isn't going to be as Christmasy as it normally would be around here. 


A few days ago, I checked in at Amy's Humble Musings.  She has a blog entry that starts off like this:
Economists say that it’s going to be a “bad” Christmas. Sales are down, fueled by anxiety about everything from the mortgage debacle to oil prices. I like a strong economy as much as the next guy, and the market was bad to us this year. But will Christmas really be a disaster? Maybe we should measure a successful holiday season by diminishing divorce, suicide, and child abuse rates. Maybe then we wouldn’t need to band-aid our loneliness with more debt. Christmas cookies, footie pajamas, hot cocoa, a fire, carols playing in the background… nobody fighting…that’s what I’m talkin’ about.


It's the band-aid statement that has really stuck with me as I've been thinking about all the things I would have done if I was up at at 'em.  The extra things I would have bought, the extra things I would have done with the kids.....but I look around my house and all those extra things that I would have spent extra money on that we might or might not have had the money for, I now understand is unnecessary to any of us experiencing the joy of Christmas.  The kids are just having fun sneaking around, hiding their gifts they got for each other, we're making cookies to give away to the neighbors today, we've been listening to our favorite carols, and listening to readings from the Bible about God's sacrifice when He sent His Son to be with us.  That's all we really need!  Amy was right.  :-)

Monday, December 17, 2007

Finally!

Well, I've hated to be a blogging flake, but it's been so crazy around here with First and Only Husband at work so much during the last two weeks.  We're all crossing our fingers and saying huge prayers.  It looks as if tomorrow will be his last day and then he will finally get to start his vacation on Wednesday - a week late.  God bless him.  I know it's been stressful for him.  It's a fine line he has to walk, knowing how needed he is at home AND work right now.  There's no way to please any of us.  ;-)  It's been doubly hard on him because although Sophia is an excellent sleeper during the day, she struggles at night.  We are not the types to walk the floor with her if there doesn't seem to be anything obviously wrong with her, so we've been letting her cry it out.  She usually gets to sleep after crying for about 5-10 minutes, but doesn't stay asleep for long, so we usually spend two or three hours each night sleeping/waking/sleeping/waking.......so my Husband is going to work sleep deprived.  I do feel guilty when I lay down to take a nap to catch up during the day, knowing he can't! 


So.....here are pictures of Sophia!  Better later than never, eh?


Here she is after her first bath.


Here are the kids and my Mom getting their first glimpse of her at the hospital.  Thank GOD for my parents.  We would have never gotten through this time without them.



Here's a picture of her at home.  A rare moment when she has her eyes open.  I LOVE her eyes.  I wish you could see them in person!  She's just beautiful.  <sigh>



I want to thank you all for all the wonderful comments you left after my last post.  You added to our joy with yours!  We are so grateful for this new baby girl.  I have to admit that today when I was putting away some of my maternity clothing, I prayed that I would get to wear it again!  ;-)

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

She's Here!

Our baby girl is here.  :-)  She was born on Friday, December 7th at 10:47 a.m., weighing in at 8 lbs. 14 oz., 20 3/4 inches.  I would love to post a picture for you to see, but we got a new camera and I have no clue how to use it.  My husband has taken all the pictures so far and the pictures are on his computer.  I hope to get some of them from him tomorrow night so I can post them for you to see!  She is beautiful.  :-)


The reason I can't get any pictures from my Husband is that he has been working major overtime since Second Daughter (Sophia) was born.  This is the perfect example of how our year has gone.  ;-)  But our hope is that within the next two days, this project that he has to finish ASAP will be done and he will be able to take off for the rest of the year.  The big blessing in all of this is my parents.  If they weren't here right now, we have no clue how we would survive this time.


This birth was by far the easiest I have ever experienced.  If you're a fan of epidurals, you'll totally enjoy this story.  If not, you might shake your head and sigh over me.  LoL 


On the Tuesday before the induction, at my OB appointment, my doctor told me I was 3 cm dilated.  When I showed up at the hospital on Friday to be induced, the nurse checked me first thing, and I was dilated to between a 4 1/2 and 5!!!  I couldn't believe it.  My first thought was that an epidural is usually given once a mom is 4 cm.  So I asked my nurse if I could go ahead and get the epidural right then and there so I wouldn't have to go through the trauma of getting it while in the middle of agonzing contractions.  Made sense to me, made sense to my nurse, and it obviously made sense to my OB because she gave the go-ahead.  So my nurse started the pitocin, gave the anesthesiologist a ring, and he showed up before the contractions became anything more than annoying.  This was between 8:30 and 9 a.m.  After that, I spent my time watching the intensity of my contractions on the monitor and First and Only Husband, who was getting a cold!, got a little work done on his laptop.  It was the most surreal experience of my life.  It was so calm - almost boring!  Finally around 10:30 my OB came in and let me try a few pushes which brought Second Daughter down into position.  She and our nurse broke down the table for delivery, I pushed through three or four contractions, and there she was!  And OH MY GOODNESS she is so beautiful.  And we are tickled because she looks a lot like First Daughter.  I can't wait to see them all grown up together.  What a blessing God has given us in our girls. 


I stayed in the hospital until Sunday morning.  I was really ready to go home on Saturday but everyone kinda wigs out over the mother with five kids and insisted I stay one more day so I could "get some rest."  If God chooses to bless us again, I think I'll just come home next time, although I did enjoy the time alone with Second Daughter.  My windows overlooked the busy interstate and other roads and it felt so cozy to look out at all the traffic going here and there, realizing that Second Daughter and I were snug in our room on the top floor with just a few people going in and out, making sure we were both healthy and happy.


Hopefully I'll have pictures tomorrow!  :-)

Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Friday!

The whole "when should the baby come" issue is really cracking me up.  Yesterday at my OB appointment, I mentioned that my husband wanted me to wait until the 12th, if possible.  My doctor said, "No, not that day.  That's my day off!"  LOL!  If I could just get my parents, husband and OB in the same room, maybe they could work something out among themselves and then let me know.  ;-)


After this conversation, my OB was checking me out, and she kept saying, "I don't know.....maybe 9 lbs."  Eeeeeek!  With my skill in math, I was able to quickly add 1 more week, which equals 1 more pound.  When she mentioned inducing me my immediate response was that I would check with my Husband as soon as I got home and give her a call.  I have given birth to a 10 lb. 2 oz. baby before, and really, once was enough.  ;-)


So after consulting with First and Only Husband, this Friday has been agreed upon.  That will give us the weekend to get back home from the hospital and get settled in so he can get back to work on Monday and finish things up before being blessed with the rest of the month off!  I can't wait!  I LOVE having him here.


So pray for us on Friday!  We have to show up at the hospital at 4:45 a.m.  Oyve.  My Husband and I are both night owls.  It is still DARK outside at 4:45 a.m. and no one should even be considering getting out of bed at that time, but off to the hospital we will go!  We will post pictures ASAP.   

Key To Reserva

I just finished watching Martin Scorsese's attempt at what he called preserving a Hitchcock film that had never been made.  There are only three surviving pages of the story, so he shot those three pages.  It was fun to watch!


Don't watch this one with the kids in the room....you know how Hitchcock can be a bit "edge of your seat-ish." 


 


Monday, December 3, 2007

Next Wednesday'ish

OH
MY
GOODNESS.


Today, I can say that TOMORROW my parents will be here!  Since our scare with the contractions last week, our mantra around here as been, "next Wednesday is not that far from now."  The hope was that I could make it without going into full-blown labor until my parents got here.  So far so good!  Tomorrow is....well, TOMORROW!  ;-) 


But my Husband has thrown a wrench into my back patting.  He says that now I have to hold off until the 12th (I am due the 14th).  Beginning the 12th, he will be able to take off from work for the rest of the year.  Before the 12th, he has a million deadlines to meet, so having the baby before then, would mess all that up.  Reminds me of the time when I was pregnant with First Daughter during the Stanley Cup Finals, back in 1998.  I was on bedrest with her because I kept going into early labor.  First and Only Husband told me that I could not have the baby until after the Stanley Cup Finals were over.  She was born the day after they were over.  How's that for cooperation? 


Guess what day the 12th is???  Wednesday!  So now we can again say, "next Wednesday is not that far from now."  We'll see.  ;-)


I am going to miss being pregnant.  Here are some of the things I will miss:
1)  I will miss the smiles that light up in the eyes of most women when they ask me about my pregancy and in turn, go down memory lane with me about their own pregnancies and children.  Children bring joy, and there's something about a pregnancy that brings such hope to so many people.  I love to see that reflected in a person's face and conversation.


2)  I will miss having the baby so close to me.  That may sound a little odd, but as I think about it, I think that there will never be another time in this baby's life when we are closer.  As soon as she is born, we will begin the clash of wills as she becomes her own little person, bound up in all that original sin business,  that will make her own choices for better or for worse.  Not that I want to control her, but man, do I want to see her succeed.  I know that there will be days where it is painful to watch her try to buck the system and get away with it, while my Husband and I will have to apply the appropriate consequences. 


3)  Here's one for the books.  I have been called "cute" three times during this pregnancy.  Hey, I'm 39....I'll take whatever I can get.


4)  I will miss talking with my kids about what their little sister will possibly look and act like.  It has been so much fun to imagine her.  It has also brought out a lot of fun conversation about when they were each babies.  Funny stories about them, how they looked when they were firstborn, the discomfort they caused while I was carrying them....LOL!  I had to make them feel a little guilty for beating up poor mom!

Sunday, December 2, 2007

Don't Mess with a Classic

I just finished reading a great series from Pulpit Magazine titled The Flaws of the Fad-Driven Church.  This is the link to Part I.  Here is Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6 and Part 7.  This is a great series that tackles such biggies as The Jabez Prayer, Rick Warren's 40 Days of Purpose, seeker sensitive churches, the emergent church  movement....is there anything necessarily wrong with these trends that have popped up in church culture in the last 20 or more years?  The author of the article believes so, as many of these fads have taken the place of the teaching of scripture.  Take your time to read it.  It really helped me to clear things up in my head concerning all these fads.


I just finished listening to my own pastor, Tom Nelson, deliver a message to the students of Dallas Theological Seminary on this subject.  He was exhorting the up-and-coming pastors to keep their focus on the real thing - scripture - to stay away from wherever the popular culture happens to be blowing at the time, because popular culture trends never lasts, "but the Word of our God stands forever." (Is. 40:8) 



Finally, if you're unsure what the emergent church is and what it stands for, watch these two YouTube videos for a little information.  It will make your hair stand on end!


 



Part 2


 


Saturday, December 1, 2007

With a Little Help from My Friends

Mama Archer has started a QuiverFull Blogroll that I am joining.  I am looking forward to seeing blogs of other QF families.  The internet is great!  We know very few people where we live that are following the same journey. 


Although we know very few people where we live who are QuiverFull families, we have been so blessed by friends who have been so supportive of what we feel is God's plan for our family.  There are two ladies in particular who helped bring us here through prayer.


After First and Only Husband had his vasectomy, he and I both knew that we had made a bad decision.  I cried when he walked in the door after the deed was done and he just about did, too.  Our tempraments are a bit different.  When a decision is made,  First and Only Husband does not want to turn right back around and change it the next day.  I do!  ;-)  So began three years of me forwarding him articles I found on the web, nagging, and downright begging for him to get a reversal. 


I finally gave up talking with him about it and did what I should have done in the first place.  Prayed about it!  I had two really great prayer partners at the time and I also brought my request to them.  These two ladies are MAJOR prayer warriors and within a very short time, my Husband had agreed to a reversal.  Here is a link to his side of this story if you're interested.


You know, I'm not even totally sure how my two prayer partners felt about this prayer request I brought to them.  Did they think I was insane?  ;-)  I'll never know, because they never questioned me about it.  They just prayed with me about it.  That is an incredible kind of support for which I am eternally grateful.  Because of their care for me and my concerns, whether they agreed or not, they committed themselves to pray for what was on my heart concerning our family, and it has brought such great results for our family.  Third Son would never be here, and Second Daughter would not be days away from being born.  Our older three would have missed out on the fun they have had being big brothers and sister to these little ones.  Believe me, they have enjoyed it so far and the enjoyment will only be increased when Second Daughter is born.  And because of my Husband agreeing to go through the reversal, and his reasons for even beginning down this path, our relationship has been stronger.  Not to mention our faith in God has grown so much!


I am so thankful for you, friends!  Thank you for encouraging me with your prayers and strengthening our family in ways we three could never have imagined. You were doing more for us than praying for more babies for our family. 


"...May the Lord watch between you and me when we are absent from one another."  Genesis 31:49